Very long story short, it took until December 22 for my divorce to be final after some bickering.

I will add this though:  I met my current wife during this period. We met online.  Both of us going through separation and eventual divorce from our spouses.  So we talked and supported one another. Of course it turned to love and we eventually met in person.  When we did, we 100% knew we were soul mates. So I'm very glad to have had her with me during all of this.  Plus she was a paralegal at that time, so I got free legal advice too!

Divorce isn't the end.  I don't know how you're feeling, but please know that that this doesn't mean you're a failure because your marriage is ending.  (I felt that way briefly.) I hope things go well for you and everything goes smoothly.  No matter what, you'll be fine!  Yeah it's scary, but you will get through it and be stronger for it.

Hey Matt

I am sorry I am really late on this one. My divorce happened in 2019 after 15 years. I wont go into it other than to say it was unexpected and caused severe mental health issues that took a year to recover from. That marriage was one of the big reasons I stopped posting here for a long time because all of my time and energy was spent trying to hold our life together.

I am unbelievably grateful that it's over. I had no sense of who she really was nor who I was in that relationship until I did a lot of therapy. I learned and grew and healed and it set me on the path to find the woman I married last year. She is the woman I have been looking for my whole life but wasn't able to be a partner to until now. We have been together since 2020.

Grief is brutal and takes forever to process so be patient with yourself and kind.