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Michael Roberts
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Posted: 03 May 2026 at 1:37pm | IP Logged | 1 post reply

During the Me Too movement, there was a very valid reckoning regarding the power imbalances that can occur in age-gap relationships, particularly ones involving relationships that started when the younger partner was in their late teens/early 20s. I remember watching this cultural shift play out in real-time with the show RIVERDALE, where the first season had a storyline involving a student having sex with his teacher, and it was played for sex appeal. Five or six seasons later, referring back to that same storyline, the characters were saying, “Oh, you were a victim! You were groomed!”

There has been a strange confluence between this legitimate reevaluation of these specific types of age-gap relationships, a largely Conservative moral panic regarding pedophilia and human trafficking (while turning a blind eye to people involved with actual human traffickers), and a set of terminally online Gen Zers that likes to infantilize themselves, and it leads to some really weird takes like, “Is a 35 year old dating a 29 year old grooming?”


Edited by Michael Roberts on 03 May 2026 at 1:38pm
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John Byrne

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Posted: 03 May 2026 at 2:07pm | IP Logged | 2 post reply

My maternal great grandmother was 28 when she married my great grandfather, 64. They went on to have four children who lived to adulthood.

This was in the 1890s, when people, it seems, were more relaxed about such things.

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William Roberge
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Posted: 03 May 2026 at 2:26pm | IP Logged | 3 post reply

My father was 21 years older than my mother and I don’t remember a time that I ever thought of it as strange.
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John Byrne

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Posted: 03 May 2026 at 2:42pm | IP Logged | 4 post reply

My father was a year older than my mother, and somehow that locked in my mind that was the ideal gap. Then I married a woman six years older than me!
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Craig Earl
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Posted: 03 May 2026 at 3:25pm | IP Logged | 5 post reply

My father was five years older than my mother when they were married.
Not a great age gap, but she was 16 and he was 21!

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Evan S. Kurtz
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Posted: 03 May 2026 at 8:04pm | IP Logged | 6 post reply

I am really of a mixed mind on this. I mentioned in another topic that there seems to be a weird inverse with younger people who identify as “progressive,” that they seem to have weirdly conservative attitudes about sexuality in terms of acceptable practices, even while advocating for tolerance of people whose genders do not conform to traditional societal norms. 

To a point, I really get it. It’s not as if we’ve escaped the unfortunate past where girls as young as 12 were married off to grown men - this shit still happens around the world in 2026. According to UNICEF, approximately 12 million girls are married before the age of 18 every year. Even in the US - between 2000 and 2018, 300,000 minors were legally married. I agree with what science tells us about the human brain - these girls are not capable of making informed consent. It’s not just wrong - it’s morally reprehensible. I don’t care if it’s different cultures, morality is not subjective. 

But if two people are adults, with the full array of legal rights afforded to them through adulthood, sincerely, it’s none of my business and I have no negative judgment of people entering into relationships with whatever other consenting adult they can find. What was the thing JB observed recently? When we start using words wrong - like “groomer” - then it makes it harder to use them in a meaningful way when it’s appropriate.

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James Johnson
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Posted: 03 May 2026 at 9:25pm | IP Logged | 7 post reply

My first wife was 2 & 1/2 years older than me. We separated then divorced after 8 years of marriage. 

My current wife is 10 years younger. We've been happily married 19 years now. 

 
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